Tuesday, April 23, 2013

My Modesty Standard

I am LDS and as many may know we live by a certain standard of dress, here it is:

Your body is God’s sacred creation. Respect it as a gift from God, and do not defile it in any way. Through your dress and appearance, you can show the Lord that you know how precious your body is. You can show that you are a disciple of Jesus Christ.
Prophets of God have always counseled His children to dress modestly. The way you dress is a reflection of what you are on the inside. Your dress and grooming send messages about you to others and influence the way you and others act. When you are well groomed and modestly dressed, you invite the companionship of the Spirit and can exercise a good influence on those around you.
Never lower your dress standards for any occasion. Doing so sends the message that you are using your body to get attention and approval and that modesty is important only when it is convenient.
Immodest clothing includes short shorts and skirts, tight clothing, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and other revealing attire. Young women should wear clothing that covers the shoulder and avoid clothing that is low-cut in the front or the back or revealing in any other manner. Young men should also maintain modesty in their appearance. All should avoid extremes in clothing, appearance, and hairstyle. Always be neat and clean and avoid being sloppy or inappropriately casual in dress, grooming, and manners. Ask yourself, “Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord’s presence?”
Someday you will receive your endowment in the temple. Your dress and behavior should help you prepare for that sacred time.
Do not disfigure yourself with tattoos or body piercings. If girls or women desire to have their ears pierced, they are encouraged to wear only one pair of modest earrings.
Show respect for the Lord and for yourself by dressing appropriately for Church meetings and activities, whether on Sunday or during the week. If you are not sure what is appropriate, ask your parents or leaders for help. 
I believe in looking deeper than just the words though. For instance, the terms low-cut and too short and too-tight are vague guidlines and open to interpretation. I believe the meaning is about the look and feeling the outfit conveys. 
Our standard of modesty is linked to chastity- purity of body and mind. It is our job to make it easier to ourselves and others by not provoking impure thoughts and attitudes. In other words, if something is hot or sexy- thoughts are led to sex. Clothes can cover neck to ankles and still be immodest by the look conveyed.
When I dress I try to look elegant, put-together, attractive, clean, pretty. All this can be achieved without being provocative and sexy. So for my personal interpretation of the standard:
Length should at LEAST touch the knee but mid-knee is more comfortable for me so I can be modest sitting down.
Low cut is clevage. Clevage is the tops of your boobs= too low.
I really dislike cap sleeves because it seems like a cop out "what is the bare minimum", also, I really don't like to show my armpits. Eeww.
"When I consider the demons who are twins—even immodesty and immorality—I should make them triplets and include pornography.They all three go together" President Monson
This is a strong statement by the Prophet of our Lord. 
This is not a superficial issue about appearance, this is a deep moral issue with far reaching effects. Pornography is becoming more prevalent and accepted today, along with a rise in immorality, adultery  abuse, divorce, and a decrease in marriage and stable families. I'm not saying pornography is the only cause but it is a large one. 
What is considered pornography today is different than it was 60 years ago. I think the main reason is because of the way society dresses. How society dresses now used to be considered pornography. The fact is that it can be seen in almost all ads, media, on beaches, in schools, and even churches. 60 years ago those outfits would have been deemed porographic, now it is common- even aspired to. However, the decline in the accepted definition of pornography doesn't change what pornography actually is. I will make a statement and I know some will be offended by it, while it is not the purpose I can't apologize for my belief. Immodesty is pornography.

this may seem strongly worded, many will disagree. That's fine. I don't expect others to live up to my standards, I don't judge them or look down on them. I judge myself by this standard. Again, my intent is not to offend or to pass judgement, my intent is to declare my belief.

3 finished sewing projects

I have just finished three sewing projects, two were 'from scratch' and one refashion. The jacket and the vest I started before I was pregnant; my son is almost a year old so these were 2 years in the making. My problem is I get to a step like hemming or buttons/buttonholes and the project comes to a screeching halt. It is not that they are hard to do it is just that I don't like doing them. But I finally finished.

The leopard skirt is V8425 I made from a large floor length skirt from a thrift store find. Sorry no before pics.