Saturday, January 24, 2015

Some quick organization

I've been doing some organization; not as much as I'd like, but some. I was looking at my kitchen towels the other day and decided six years was long enough. They were stained and ready to be replaced so I got rid of all the old ones and bought a bunch of new ones at Ross.
Another project was the throw blankets in the living room. This project has seen many iterations and I think I finally found one that works for me. For awhile I used a cheap, white shoe organizer but it was flimsy and kept falling apart. Then I saw the ladder idea on pinterest but do you know how hard it is to find a wooden ladder at the thrift store, IMPOSSIBLE. But I bought a crib for $10 only to get home and realize pieces were missing so I used one side as my new throw blanket storage rack. I tied it to the mantle support.
The last item today is the bathtub storage. I hate tripping over bath toys while I am taking a shower but it was difficult to store the bath toys because if you were taking them out of the bath, they needed to dry and then you forget about them until you trip over them naked in the shower (not fun, mormon cursing ensues). So I saw a trick on pinterest and did it myself. I added another curtain rod in the back and then found curtain rings at the thrift store and plastic baskets at the dollar store. Ta-Dah

Monday, January 19, 2015

Refashion catch-up

Another post starting with long time no see. I'm not even going to look at when my last post was, way to depressing. But I'm ready to try again.
So first, a quick no-sew refashion.
Found this at a thrift store for $1
Took the red print polyester off, luckily the construction was an actual sweater with fabric pieces sewn on. I've seen it done different ways.

Now a cool outfit. 
Shirt: Old, like really old.
Vest: thrifted $1
Skirt: $10 JC Penny
Belt: From pants somewhere
Boots: eBay $10

Here is an almost no-sew project.
My son needed new church shoes but no way was I ever getting my toddler shoes with ties ever again. I scoured thrift stores and couldn't find nice slip-on church shoes. Then I found really cute ones with ties for $3 and decided to fix them.

I bought thin black elastic from the fabric store with a coupon on sale (this is like the white elephant of craft shops, usually you can't use coupons on sale items but it was special), so only $2
Thread the elastic through like shoe laces, the hardest part is deciding how to thread them for visual appeal. At the top, make sure this part is hidden, overlap the two sides then hand stitch them together. Viola!

Here is an old one from when I was pregnant. I was going to a wedding and this is what i came up with.
I started with these two, thrifted for $1 a piece.

End result. I used a different belt and you really can't see but it accommodated my pregnant belly just fine.

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Fears of being a parent with todays government

Recently the state of Massachusetts has been awarded custody of a teenager. Her name is Justina Pelletier. She is from Connecticut. Her family, on the advise of her physicians, took her to Boston for some more treatments. Justina was diagnosed with a mitochondrial disease but was being treated and was able to have an active life, ice skating, going to school. A minor complication arose and her physician recommended she see a specialist in Boston. This is where the story takes a terrifying (for any parent) turn. In Boston, instead of being allowed to see the recommended specialist, she was seen by a resident in the ER, who decided she didn't have mitochondrial disease, instead she had somataform disorder- essentially physically symptoms with no physical cause, its all in her head. When the parents disagreed and wanted to take her back to her doctors the Boston hospital said the parents were committing medical child abuse and took custody of her. This was 13 months ago. Since then her parents have been allowed hourly visits. She has not been able to attend school since she was taken into custody (and her treatments for mitochondrial disease discontinued) because her condition has deteriorated so much. And now the judge has ruled the state of Massachusetts has custody.
  This should scare parents to death. It scares me. We are living in a country that is beginning to adopt the idea that children do not belong to parents, they are community property. Parental rights are being taken away at an alarming rate. I would love to be honest with my pediatrician but I live in fear that if I admit I'm not always following the recommendations- not LAWS- my child could be taken away. I'm talking about things like car seats. AAP recommends rear-facing car seats until 2 years old, but the law only requires 1 years. I have, at times, slept with my newborn just to stop the screaming. Uh-oh.
What is real child abuse anymore, if the state can decide that a child should be taken away from their parents even when the child is getting worse in the care of the state.
Here are some situations I see that should illustrate my point:
Will they one day consider it child abuse if a mother decides not to breastfeed?
Will it be child abuse if the school decides the parent is not packing a healthy enough lunch, even though what the government considers healthy changes constantly?
Will it be child abuse if the parent has guns in the house locked up unloaded in a safe?
What about those parents that do not vaccinate their children? Could the state take a child away because they don't get the flu shot?
This one is already causing problems, spankings. Can a parent spank their child or will that constitute child abuse?
How about those parents who home school their children? With this new common core crap I foresee more and more proactive parents pulling their kids out of school. Will that be reason for the state to take the children?
The list goes on and on. I agree that there are some situations where interventions is needed for the well being of the child, but it seems that using that definition leaves a wide margin of abuse.
My two week old baby, over the weekend, developed a clogged tear duct. We knew what to do and had a doctors appointment on Monday so we dealt with it at home. It was almost completely cleared up by the time we got to the office. I wasn't concerned but mentioned it anyway. The doctor agreed it was probably a clogged tear duct but decided cultures should be taken just in case, an attitude born from the defensive medicine culture because of so much litigation. I would need to go to a lab in the hospital for the test. Here I am, with a brand new baby and an almost 2 year old toddler who spends all day throwing tantrums and I had to take them to the hospital. I did not want to even think about how hard that would be. I also looked and thought about taking two healthy children, one a newborn, into a hospital lab waiting room during flu season when we already knew what was wrong and it was almost gone anyway. My husband and I made the decision not to get the test done. Was this child abuse, NO. As parents, we believe that was the best thing for the health and well being of our children, and lets be honest here, that is OUR job. Not the doctors, not the states. They are there to help and advise but I am my child's parent and I have their best interests at heart. My baby is two months old, fine and has nothing wrong.
    When I was 16 my dad took us to the shooting range, we had been many times before and we all were well versed in gun safety. While I was shooting a handgun I made a slight mistake and the gun hit me in the forehead on the recoil. It was an accident and I did go to the ER later that day when it didn't stop swelling. I had a hematoma and a headache but I was fine, better in fact, than many injured in football or other sports. My dad was scared to death child services was going to get involved because a gun was involved. A parent should not be afraid to seek medical attention for their child. I don't care if you like guns or not. I was not in danger, there was no abuse involved but every parent today knows that it doesn't matter. If someone with perceived authority decides you were abusing your child, that is it. It is no longer innocent until proven guilty.
   We need to be reluctant to take children from their parents. I was reading an article somewhere about a Neo-Nazi father whose children kept being taken away because he was a Neo-Nazi. I adamantly disagree with his beliefs, I am sickened by his opinions, but he was not abusing his children. He was not physically, mentally, or emotionally abusing his kids. He was not endangering them with his activities. He was however, teaching them his beliefs. Does that give the government the right to say he shouldn't raise his children? If it does, where does it end? I am Mormon, and because I teach my children that the act of homosexuality is wrong, should the state say I am harming them and remove them? Never mind that I'll teach them all sexual acts before marriage is also wrong. We should only remove children under the most extreme circumstances and we need to start limiting what we allow the government to get away with. We need to be proactive parents who speak out for right, whether we agree with another's beliefs or not. I vaccinate my children for everything but the flu and I think it is irresponsible not to, but I will fight any law that takes away a parent's right to make that choice. I do not want to home school my children but that does not mean the school owns my kids, I will monitor what they are taught and make the it clear if I disagree. If that means fighting against common  core now when my children aren't even in school yet, so be it. I also think parents should have the right to home school without being thought of as nutjobs. And yes, I know kids who would be better off in a different home but that does not mean they are being abused and should be removed.


Monday, November 4, 2013

Journaling Idea

I am really bad at keeping a journal, that should be obvious by the amount of time I spend on keeping up with this blog. So I thought of a way that may improve my efforts. I know I have a hard time sitting down and just writing, it ends up sounding whiny or on the other extreme, bragging. I thought maybe I would have an easier time if I did weekly prompts. If I came up with a list of questions to write about each week, I know there is no way I will be able to keep a daily journal so lets not set myself up for failure. I have been racking my brain for some good questions, so here they are and I am open to suggestions:

1) Spiritual experiences from the week: times i have felt the spirit, prayers that have been answered, promptings I have received, missionary experiences. This will help me recognize them as they come along and by writing them down I can remember them and I also think it shows Heavenly Father and appreciation for his blessings

2) Weekly achievements: mine and my families
3) Goals for next week
4) Events that occurred in the week
5) A funny story
6) any realizations I had during the week

Any other suggestions?

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Pleated Purple

I finished a refashion spur of the moment last night. In retrospect maybe I should have checked into it more. I took a purple bottom down polyester shirt that was a size 20W and took in the sides and shortened the sleeves.

It looked great with a purple wool pleated skirt I thrifted and yellow thrifted belt and yellow shoes.
So I was sitting in the foyer during Sunday School and Zane was very active. I stood up and one of the other women pointed at my shirt. All but the top button was unbuttoned. I mean I was completely exposed. So back to the drawing board after one very embarrassing event.

Friday, May 10, 2013

I was told it was not flattering

I did a refashion recently and my husband really didn't like it. It originally fit me great but was too long. I thought it had a vintage vibe and when I shortened it it would also then have a modern vibe. Anyway, here it is. Bought for $0.75.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

My Modesty Standard

I am LDS and as many may know we live by a certain standard of dress, here it is:

Your body is God’s sacred creation. Respect it as a gift from God, and do not defile it in any way. Through your dress and appearance, you can show the Lord that you know how precious your body is. You can show that you are a disciple of Jesus Christ.
Prophets of God have always counseled His children to dress modestly. The way you dress is a reflection of what you are on the inside. Your dress and grooming send messages about you to others and influence the way you and others act. When you are well groomed and modestly dressed, you invite the companionship of the Spirit and can exercise a good influence on those around you.
Never lower your dress standards for any occasion. Doing so sends the message that you are using your body to get attention and approval and that modesty is important only when it is convenient.
Immodest clothing includes short shorts and skirts, tight clothing, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and other revealing attire. Young women should wear clothing that covers the shoulder and avoid clothing that is low-cut in the front or the back or revealing in any other manner. Young men should also maintain modesty in their appearance. All should avoid extremes in clothing, appearance, and hairstyle. Always be neat and clean and avoid being sloppy or inappropriately casual in dress, grooming, and manners. Ask yourself, “Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord’s presence?”
Someday you will receive your endowment in the temple. Your dress and behavior should help you prepare for that sacred time.
Do not disfigure yourself with tattoos or body piercings. If girls or women desire to have their ears pierced, they are encouraged to wear only one pair of modest earrings.
Show respect for the Lord and for yourself by dressing appropriately for Church meetings and activities, whether on Sunday or during the week. If you are not sure what is appropriate, ask your parents or leaders for help. 
I believe in looking deeper than just the words though. For instance, the terms low-cut and too short and too-tight are vague guidlines and open to interpretation. I believe the meaning is about the look and feeling the outfit conveys. 
Our standard of modesty is linked to chastity- purity of body and mind. It is our job to make it easier to ourselves and others by not provoking impure thoughts and attitudes. In other words, if something is hot or sexy- thoughts are led to sex. Clothes can cover neck to ankles and still be immodest by the look conveyed.
When I dress I try to look elegant, put-together, attractive, clean, pretty. All this can be achieved without being provocative and sexy. So for my personal interpretation of the standard:
Length should at LEAST touch the knee but mid-knee is more comfortable for me so I can be modest sitting down.
Low cut is clevage. Clevage is the tops of your boobs= too low.
I really dislike cap sleeves because it seems like a cop out "what is the bare minimum", also, I really don't like to show my armpits. Eeww.
"When I consider the demons who are twins—even immodesty and immorality—I should make them triplets and include pornography.They all three go together" President Monson
This is a strong statement by the Prophet of our Lord. 
This is not a superficial issue about appearance, this is a deep moral issue with far reaching effects. Pornography is becoming more prevalent and accepted today, along with a rise in immorality, adultery  abuse, divorce, and a decrease in marriage and stable families. I'm not saying pornography is the only cause but it is a large one. 
What is considered pornography today is different than it was 60 years ago. I think the main reason is because of the way society dresses. How society dresses now used to be considered pornography. The fact is that it can be seen in almost all ads, media, on beaches, in schools, and even churches. 60 years ago those outfits would have been deemed porographic, now it is common- even aspired to. However, the decline in the accepted definition of pornography doesn't change what pornography actually is. I will make a statement and I know some will be offended by it, while it is not the purpose I can't apologize for my belief. Immodesty is pornography.

this may seem strongly worded, many will disagree. That's fine. I don't expect others to live up to my standards, I don't judge them or look down on them. I judge myself by this standard. Again, my intent is not to offend or to pass judgement, my intent is to declare my belief.